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Can we all just sit here for a moment and appreciate how fucking gorgeous Maila Nurmi was even as she aged? 

This is my goal for getting old

age awesomely and look like a glamorous witch

I’ve reblogged this before, and I don’t care. Also, shadyoaks commentary is PERFECT. "age awesomely and look like a glamorous witch."

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allvirgo asked:

You mentioned loud public shaming as the correct response to witnessing street harassment. What kinds of points do you think are important for us to make as we dress the culprit down the next time we see that kind of shit happening?

zoetica:

Thanks for asking!

The balance is found when everyone is safe, but the perpetrators know that harassment will have consequences and stop themselves in the future, in order to avoid such consequences. The key is not to aggravate, but to cause enough of an unpleasantness to leave an impression. Avoid displaying anger and name-calling, and stick to what we all know to be true: catcalling is never a compliment, no one likes to be harassed, harassment is a violation, literally all women ever have been harassed, street harassment scars women for life. The material practically writes itself. 

Trouble is, there is no surefire way of knowing who is the type of asshole to get aggravated and get violent, and this is why most people stay quiet. Be aware that by stepping in, you are choosing to get involved, and that could mean all sorts of bad news. When I see harassment, I choose to get involved. To me, staying silent is nothing less than perpetuating the problem and the worst thing I could do. On a personal note, If you’re an able-bodied dude reading this, I would really, really love it if you would think of intervening as your job as a human. 

There are lots of great resources on the topic I’ll link to after this, but this article, What Men Can Do to Stop Street Harassment, says it best with the short and catchy, Call them out, call them in. I paraphrase and append:

Call out with a short question or statement to give the victim reprieve and remove the perceived social approval of harassment.

Call in by asking questions and initiating dialogue. Sometimes this could mean asking others around how they feel about the perp’s actions, which kills several birds with one stone: more eyes on the situation, more voices to support how shitty harassment is. 

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